Parenting is hard. Not only do you have to worry about if you’re raising them to be polite, functioning humans, other judgmental parents and providing well balanced meals – it’s your job to protect them from the craziness of the world & ‘adult’ problems. That last one weighs on me heavily, because one day they will be old enough to understand. This is an open letter to children who have individuals who have chosen to not be a part of their lives.Continue reading
While this post is a moot point now, it was super fun and easy so I had to share. It’s a good one to keep in your back pocket when Easter rolls around again.
Last year at Easter, Gunnar was too small to understand or participate. This year was a different ball game. We dyed eggs, did multiple eggs hunts and celebrated with family.
We dyed our Easter eggs with Cool Whip, yes you read that right. The sweet, sticky dessert topping! We all loved every delicious moment of it. Continue reading
I love holidays. Any reason to decorate, make themed foods, give gifts and celebrate – count me in! Gunnar is getting to the age where he enjoys opening gifts and can start sharing in the excitement.
Here’s a roundup of all the fun toddler things you can put in your little bunny’s Easter basket this year. Continue reading
It’s rare that we get a full weekend with Leep. He typically works Saturdays and we have to squeeze things into one day. This weekend we were lucky and had him with us for a full weekend, and man did we make the most of it! Join us for a weekend in the life of the Malmy’s!
It’s December first. Another year gone. It’s been a trying year for my family. We lost my grandmother, then my grandfather and my sister moved to another state. These are the words I need to remember going into 2017, for life is short and we need to make the most of it. Continue reading
I’ve always heard about it, seen friends share articles and in my intensive expecting research I even browsed a few. It wasn’t until I had a smiling cherub of my own that I actually understood the ugly beast it is. While I try my hardest not to be, I’m occasionally guilty of it. Newsflash: So are you! At some point we’ve all judged another mom in passing, on Facebook, or even our friends.
There is no “right-way” to tackle the journey of parenthood. As I first time mom I am clumsily learning that first hand, very quickly. Everyone does things differently, even different pediatricians tell you to do things differently. In the end, we all turned out OK [well most of us] and our children will turn out OK.
While some comments are said as jokes, some as unwarranted advice and some just are downright ugly – they all hurt a little [or a lot] and make you feel like you’re not parenting correctly or maybe a bad parent. You question every decision you’ve made and start to compare yourself – and your baby – to those around you.
STOP. Stop it right now. Breastfeed, great! Formula feed, wonderful! Cloth vs disposable diapers – just change em! Cry it out vs cuddle – you do you. In the end we’re all raising amazing little beings in our own way that’s just right for us and for them. We need to band together. When asked, offer your advice – judgement free. I know I wouldn’t have made it through some of the tough times, and won’t make it through the tough times ahead without asking for the wonderful advice of my mom, other moms and my new mommy friends!
Let’s collectively as a whole try to put an end to parent shaming. Instead of shaming let’s uplift and encourage. Stop and take a moment to tell that person how great of a job they’re doing. After-all, we’re all in this together – let’s stop being annoyed by everything and start lifting each other up.
I recently saw a post on Instagram that speaks volumes:
“To the pregnant women on social media posting constant updates and belly pictures, I am so incredibly happy for you and the fact that you will soon be blessed with the most amazing little bundle of joy, I love seeing how excited you are to become a mommy. To the women posting “selfies”, thanks for letting young girls know it’s okay to love yourself and to feel beautiful! To the mom posting a million pictures of her kids, it makes my heart so happy to see parents so proud and loving their babies! To the married couple constantly posting “sappy love posts” thank you for being a reminder to the next generation that all hope isn’t lost and happy marriages DO exist.”