My Baby: You are enough, You have enough

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Parenting is hard. Not only do you have to worry about if you’re raising them to be polite, functioning humans, other judgmental parents and providing well balanced meals – it’s your job to protect them from the craziness of the world & ‘adult’ problems. That last one weighs on me heavily, because one day they will be old enough to understand. This is an open letter to children who have individuals who have chosen to not be a part of their lives.  Continue reading

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Our Happily Ever After: 5 Years

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5 years. 1,826 days.

Leep & I have been together for 5 years today. Happy Dateversary, Babe!

In honor of our 5 years, I thought I would give a quick 5 tips that have helped us make it through these last 5 years. Then, who doesn’t love a good photo montage?  Continue reading

His & Hers Engagement Gifts

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This past weekend during their ‘Stock the Bar’ housewarming party, surrounded by everyone they love, Leep’s brother Jeremy popped the question and was answered with an excited – Yes! 17634418_10102349967907607_8985838658398820672_n.jpg

Congrats Uncle Worm & Auntie Ash!

We were the only two in on the when & where details so we decided to surprise them with his & her engagement gifts right after the proposal to start the celebrating early. Most people will gift a bottle of wine, a Congratulations card or some other generic gift. Why not mix it up and give something a little more personal and meaningful. Here’s what we put in our gifts…

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2nd Anniversary: Winter Wonderland Wedding

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12.13.14 was a magical day.

Our wedding was the perfect winter wonderland mix of sophistication and kick ass party. [All details below] It’s been featured on multiple blogs and in Coastal Virginia Bride magazine. We had an amazing photographer, Sarah Street, and I’ll let her photos do the talking… Continue reading

Be Imperfect & Be Present

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It’s December first. Another year gone. It’s been a trying year for my family. We lost my grandmother, then my grandfather and my sister moved to another state. These are the words I need to remember going into 2017, for life is short and we need to make the most of it.  Continue reading

How to Deal with Toxic People

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Let’s get personal for a moment…

From the very beginning of our relationship my husbands family has not liked me – yet here we are today happily married with a beautiful son. Originally there was no real reason for the hatred: a mother struggling with losing her first son to another woman, jealousy, nicknames, difference of views and opinions. Lots of small moot excuses but no real outright reason for not liking me as a person.

It’s been a roller coaster of good times and bad, as well as times where mine and Leep’s relationship truly suffered. I am sad to say that as of today they are no longer a part of our lives or our sons life. While that wasn’t an easy decision to come to – mentally, emotionally and wholeheartedly we are happier and healthier for it.

Family, friends – it’s hard to say goodbye to anyone. I struggled for a long time [and maybe still do] with accepting that their opinion towards me would never change, no matter how hard I tried. The point I want to share is: It is not wrong for you to show them the way out of your life.

This post is to let you know, you’re not alone. Monster-in-laws is more than just a bad joke or saying to some. You hear others talk about how they dislike their in-laws and you both cringe inside, your spouse out of embarrassment with how their family acts, and you because they don’t know how truly bad it could be. You feel pangs of jealousy towards those that have great relationships with their in-laws and you band together with those in similar situations as you. If you’re like us, you’re blessed to have one side of the family who loves and supports you and more importantly your spouse, unconditionally. Spend your time with these people, they are the meaning of true love, support and family.

Here is a quick list of thoughts that helped us navigate this difficult situation.  Continue reading